The Key to Effective Change

So many times we hear people who want to make a change say, "I want to..."  Very seldom do we actually see the actions necessary to make the change follow their statement.  Therefore, in order to make a change we have to WORK for that change. 

George Bernard Shaw
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The first step in making a change is to MAKE A CHOICE.  It is not enough to just want to change.  You must choose to make the change occur.  Dreams are worthless unless you wake up and do it.  Quit feeling stuck in a rut.  Get out of mere tradition. Many times we continue to live a certain way because it is simply what we are used to doing.  However, tradition can be one of the major obstacles holding us back from doing what we want to do and being the person we desperately want to be.  Once you have your mind set on the change you want to make, figure out how you will make that change.

The second step is to WORK FOR THE CHANGE. We need to understand that we did not develop habits overnight. Habits take time to fester in our everyday routines.  So, it is unreasonable to think that we can get rid of unwanted habits in one night.  Change requires effort, planning, hard work, thought, and determination.  Habits seem to call our name at the most inopportune times.  We just have to stand our ground and work for a consistent change.  We cannot be weak once we start working to make a change.

The major step to making a change is to KEEP AN HONEST COMMUNITY. We all have people who are either working for us or against us.  We need to figure out the difference amongst the group of people we are associated with.  We need to distance ourselves from the people who seem to be holding us back from what we truly need to be doing to better ourselves.  We need people who will support us in spite of our wrongdoings, love us, tell us the truth, and break things down to us to help us understand.  We need people to tell us as it is with LOVE.  We don't need someone who is going to make everything an argument.  We need someone who is willing to go the distance with us and not help us go back down that old path. There are times that we try to make it seem as though we are always okay even at our lowest times and front to make it seem that we are strong.  However, we all need someone who we can trust to be confidential, non-judgmental, truthful, and love us for who we are despite our downfalls.  If you can find one person who can strengthen and support you throughout the process of change, that is good.  If you can find even two people, that is awesome.  Just be wise of who you call your "crew".